So, SEX . I dont have it. never have. Im 22 years old and Pete is 23 and neither of us have ever had "sexual intercourse". ALL thanks and GLORY to God. Lets establish right here that in no way do I give credit to myself for that. Sinner sam would have got in bed long ago if my Lord had not have stepped in about 1000 times. I do not write this blog to make anyone say good job sam and pete, or for anyone who might think we're crazy dumb folks from the ancient days. Im telling my story because I feel guilty. I feel guilty that I have not been a better proclaimer to why when i get asked. I feel guilty that I have not used this subject more in the past to tell the gospel.
To begin my story, lets go back to highschool. I was clearly not walking with God on a daily basis. Was I saved? yes. Did my everyday life show it? NOT MUCH.....Besides leaving pete on the side :/...I dated guys that i shouldnt have. I learned real quickly that some of these guys had reputations. Which in turn, to some people, made me look like i went along with these reputations. I was pushed several times by some of these guys to have sex. more than once. and ONLY by the grace of God did I say no. I knew i was saying no because God didnt want me to. But it was more about my fear of hell, and my fear of being labeled "a bad girl" than it was about following God's plan.
My sophomore year of college, I went to Africa. In preparation for our mission trip, we were to establish our salvation and purity testimony so that we could share to the young people of the village. (in Africa, Aids is rampant, and a lot believe salvation is based on works ). I could tell you my salvation testimony. But the purity? that was more challenging. I had to face things I had done that werent pure. Repent. and then establish why God desired a pure life for me. I have to give a little credit to the famous Jay Adkins for helping me search and encourage me to pray for why I truly was choosing to be abstinent. God told me not only was it his plan for my life, but that it was a gift. Sex is a gift. A gift only to be shared with your husband. It is not an act that is bad. It is not an act that God invented to torture teenagers with. It is an act, however, that is holy, that is pure, and that is special when done the way He intended.
These are a few reasons/exlplanations of why I think God saves sex for marriage:
1. "Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own." 1 Cor. 16:19.
God made you. That makes your body his creation. Your body should be protected and honored like a temple. It should not be used for sin. But rather used to honor God. All other sins are outside of the body, but sexual immorality is a sin within your own body. (1 Cor 6:18)
2. God made man. and God made woman to be his companion and helper. He then gave husbands and wives a gift of pleasure to be shared only to each other.
3. In His plan, a husband and wife would have children and establish families. Having sex out of marriage increases the risk of children being born out of the family dynamic plan.
4. God sees sex out of marriage as an earthly sin...... "Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry."
5. Jealousy. God meant for a husband and wife to only experience sex with each other. Doing this, I think could help control jealousy or past thoughts about old sexual partners of the husband or wife and provide for a stronger marriage.
6.Intimacy. Whats more intimate than sex? I havent had the sex, so i cant completely say :), but i dont think two people can get any closer than sex. Having sex before marriage allows too much intimacy to happen between two people who may not be fully committed to each another, thus making it harder to split up, trust etc.
Now ill take you to the NOW:
One of the reasons I fell for Pete was his gentleness, respect and opinion about this topic. Pete is rare among college age guys these days. and I LOVE THAT!!! Are pete and I perfect? Absolutely not. Do we struggle with abstinence daily? Absolutely yes. Have we let things get too far before? yes. Both of us have had to get up and leave the room before. Do I want to have sex? for sure yes, but I love God more.
1 Corinthians 10:13 = No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.
We are so eat up with temptation sometimes, its hard and pete has often said he wants to pull all his hair out and go to the courthouse for a marriage license tomorrow! haha. We know everything about each other, being close for 6+ years has allowed for some build up of tension for sure. The subject of sex comes up among our friends. And We are used to the reactions we get from people in a college town. Some are positive. Some are negative. Its usually that shocked face or a laugh of disbelief. However, I pray that we both start using our story more regularly in order to jumpstart a convo about who Jesus is, and what he has done for us. I also pray that we can keep up the absence of sex and that the increasing temptations that come from being engaged wont take over.
Please join with us in praying for our battle, and the battle most young unmarried couples face. I want to please my Lord and say on the night of December 15, 2012, I had sex with my HUSBAND for the 1st time! :)
Thanks for reading my very wordy, personal post!
Sam
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